A year and a half later

Have you ever watch those shows, that the actor decided to bury what they write underneath a tree, come back a year or two later to open and read what they have written back then and reminiscence about it? Time capsule, unknowingly I have one of it here; and when I read about what I have written a year back, memories came flooding back and tears flow down the cheeks and all over the keyboard.

A guy can give a girl everything, car, house, money, shelter. That is what a guy normally do when he love a girl, he love her with what he has, everything. However, both of them can feel unhappy; even if they love each other a lot, they cannot feel each other love and quarrel everyday. Another couple can have no money; the man is unable to provide her everything, and maybe the girl need to work really hard for the family. Yet, they can be living happily together and feel each other love and warm. They would not mind the tough life and are willing to face it together.

Why is it that when two people are together, they can love each other yet unable to feel each other love?

To a guy, loving a girl is loving her with his asset. A guy is a physical creature, he would think about their future and try to provide the girl with everything. shelter, money, car, everything that will make the girl life comfortable. He would think they space and freedom is important in relationship; therefore, as much as possible, he would try not interfere with the girl personal life, where she goes and what friend she hangs out with.He would hope that by leaving the girl alone, the girl would not miss him so much so that when something happens and he is no longer around, the girl would not feel hurt so much; and he would expect the same in return.

To a girl, loving a guy is caring him about his emotion. A girl is an emotional creature, she would constantly give the guy attention. She would constantly worry about the guy feelings, life and whatever he do. She would think that constant communication is important and as much as possible, she hopes to be there to be a listening ear to the guy when he has any trouble. She would want to give constant attention so that the guy would not feel hurt when the guy is not with her; and she would expect the same in return.

If they are unable to feel each other love, eventually they find there is a lot of differences between each other and leave each other eventually. Even if they love each other, even if they care for each other, they will end up hating and hurting each other eventually.

I do not want what people goes through what I have been through. I do not want to see my friends to be hurt. neither do I want to see a shadow of me in other people relationship. A few of my friends turn to me when they have problems, every time they concluded that I must have been in a good relationship after listening to me. Yet, I had remained single; I guess I annoyed people easily. However, for those people who is in love out there, this is what I want to say.

To guys. if you love a girl, give her constant attention. Call her frequently and take good care of her emotions, do not let her feel hurt. If she have any problems, just be patient and listen to her; even if you are unable to help in anything, just understand how she feels is good enough. If she is wants you to do something, do it for her because it is important to her.

To girls, spend a day to prepare a simple sandwich with effort, you would make him really happy, he would really appreciated what you have done. He may choose to do his own things at times, it is not because he doesn't love you as much as before. He just need break time to time constantly, give him some breathing space. He will come back to you eventually with surprises.

To singles, I would be very disappointed if you live your life for someone that is not worth it. Concentrate on the things you like and time will pass very quickly; before you knew it, you may have someone special giving you the constant attention you are looking for. Maybe the someone is right beside you now, watching over your secretly and hoping the best for your life.